Rainbow Spirit
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September 23, 2013 by TARA LASERNA
Regardless
of industry, profession, town, city or nation, highly effective and
happy people share many of the same perspectives and beliefs and they
act on those beliefs.
1. Time doesn't fill me. I fill time.
The average person who is given two weeks to complete a task will
instinctively adjust his or her effort so it actually takes two weeks.
Average people allow time to impose its will on them; remarkable people
impose their will on their time and allow fluidity. They don't stress
about time and because their perception is more fluid, time does not
become their focus and tasks become more manageable.
2. I understand balance.
They know that the terms money and success are not interchangeable.
They understand that people who are successful on a financial level
only, are not successful at all. They have an off switch. They know how
to relax, enjoy what they have in their life and to have fun. Their
career is not their identity, it’s their job. It’s not who they are,
it’s what they do. Unfortunately we live in a society which teaches that
money equals success. Like many other things, money is a tool. It’s
certainly not a bad thing but ultimately, it’s just another resource.
Unfortunately, too many people worship it.
3. The people around me are the people I chose.
Choose the people you want around you and don't let people you don't
want around you choose you. If the people around you make you unhappy
it's not their fault. It's your fault. They're in your professional or
personal life because you drew them to you--and you let them remain.
Kind people like to associate with kind people. It's about aligning
yourself with like-minded people. They understand the importance of
being part of a team. They create win-win relationships. A mean boss
will only attract people he or she can control where a boss that
empowers will attract people that love to be empowered. The former is a
disempowering relationship while the latter is an empowering
relationship. Know the difference.
4. I'm never bored and I never complain.
Complainers, whiners and those who refuse to take complete
responsibility for their actions and outcomes (or lack thereof) often
meet their demise in this respect. They bore easily because they are too
busy pretending life has to meet their expectations instead of them
reaching out and being passionate about every experience. It's about
being busy, productive and proactive. While most are laying on the
couch, planning, over-thinking, sitting on their hands and generally
going around in circles, effective people are out there getting the job
done. When you are living the life you choose, complaining, whining and
boredom don't exist.
5. I have never paid my dues.
Dues aren't paid, past tense. Dues get paid, each and every day. The
only real measure of your value is the tangible contribution you make on
a daily basis. No job is ever too menial, no task ever too unskilled or
boring. Remarkably effective people never feel entitled--except to the
fruits of their labor.
6. I ask the right questions.
They consciously and methodically create their own success by asking
the questions that will make them more productive, creative, with a more
positive mindset and empowering emotional state.
7. Failure is something I accomplish; it doesn't just happen to me.
Occasionally something completely outside your control will cause you
to fail. Most of the time though, it's you. And that's okay. Every
successful person has failed. Numerous times. Most of them have failed a
lot more often than you. But they found lessons in failures, not
problems or misery. That's why they learned how to be effective. Embrace
every failure: Own it, learn from it, and take full responsibility for
making sure that next time, things will turn out differently.
8. Clarity, innovation and focus.
They have clarity and certainty about what they want (and don’t want)
for their life. They actually visualize and plan their best reality
while others are merely spectators of life. They innovate rather than
imitate. They don’t procrastinate and they don’t spend their life
waiting for the ‘right time’. The focus and apply themselves.
9. Volunteers always win.
Whenever you raise your hand you wind up being asked to do more. That's
great. Doing more is an opportunity: to learn, to impress, to gain
skills, to build new relationships--to do something more than you would
otherwise been able to do. Success is based on action. The more you
volunteer, the more you get to act. Effective people step forward to
create opportunities. Remarkably effective people sprint forward. They
look for and find opportunities where others see nothing.
10. Not only good communicators, but the best communicators
They are good communicators and they consciously work at it. They are
more effective than most at managing their emotions when communicating
with others and they are not slaves to these emotions. Ego does not rule
their lives. They have identified their core values (what is important
to them) and they do their best to live a life which is reflective of
those values when speaking with others. Their ethical behavior is sound.
11. I address the solutions, not the problems.
People have a tendency of creating more problems than solutions which
hinders their effectiveness. They can only see obstacles where as others
just have a way of seeing past them and getting right to the solutions
that no longer make a problem....well, a problem anymore. They are
solutions seekers, not problem enablers.
12. I am humble and happy to admit my own mistakes.
They
apologize when they must. They forgive and they are confident in their
ability, but not arrogant. They are happy to learn from others and see
other perspectives than their own. They are happy to make others look
good rather than seek their own personal glory.
13. I set higher standards for myself.
This in turn produces greater commitment, more momentum, a better work
ethic and of course, better results. They don’t rationalize failure.
While many are talking about their age, their sore back, their lack of
time, their poor genetics, their ‘bad luck’, their nasty boss and their
lack of opportunities (all good reasons to fail), they are finding a way
to succeed despite all their challenges.
14. I finish what I start.
While so many spend their life starting things that they never finish,
effective people get the job done – even when the excitement and the
novelty have worn off. Even when it ain’t fun.
15. Being multi-dimensional, amazing, and wonderfully complex
They realize that not only are they physical and psychological beings,
but emotional and spiritual creatures as well. They consciously work at
being healthy and productive on all levels inside and out. They don’t
hang out with toxic people and they don’t invest time or emotional
energy into things which they have no control of. They do what they can
do advance themselves to the best of their ability and never look back,
even for a second, because the past is no longer within their control.
They plan for the future in harmony with their present state of mind and
don't overplan or overanalyze because they understand that thought
processes are constantly evolving and forever growing.
Tara Laserna is a Reiki master, energy healer, meditation and wellness coach.
