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I Went A Decade Without Dating. Here's What Happened

 

by Kerissa KuisDecember 19, 2015 5:22 AM Save  
 

Ten years ago, my life was a complete mess.

I was 25 years old, my grandmother was dying, and my Adderall use was quickly becoming an addiction. I was in a world of debt, and losing friends fast. Just when I thought things couldn't get any worse, the man I loved started cheating on me and my relationship ended in violence.

Up until that point, I'd never had good experiences with dating. My previous relationships had created a yearning for validation that ruled me mentally, physically, and emotionally. They caused me to feel weak, inadequate, and worthless in every aspect of life.

I would constantly attract men who did not appreciate my value because I did not appreciate my own self-worth at the time.

I knew I needed to learn to love myself the way that I wanted someone else to love me. But I didn't know how.

  

One night when things were at their worst, I was walking toward my condo and saw a book sitting on a bench. I could feel a distinct energy drawing me toward the text, and I stood frozen when I saw the words "fourth deadly sin" on its cover. When I opened the book, I saw that it was talking about lust. I'm a spiritual person, and I took the text as a sign that I needed to stop putting my relationships before God and myself.

I decided to let go of relationships altogether, and I made a commitment never to date again. I told myself that fulfilling my purpose was far more important than anything I could gain from a romantic partnership. Intimacy was something I thought I would never have again, and I was totally okay with that.

I avoided situations in which I could be hit on — I stopped going out and barely communicated with members of the opposite sex unless they were married or in a serious relationship. I built a wall around myself that was so high that I had no idea how anyone could ever break it down. Intimacy simply wasn’t an option, so my entire life became about working to create a business. I began developing courses for life coaches and eventually started traveling near and far to teach at wellness retreats.

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10 Ways To Practice Gratitude Today!

 

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 Dr Christina Hibbert

Overcoming, Becomin ,Flourishing

 

November 19, 2012 by Dr. Christina Hibbert 

 

 

10 Ways to Practice Gratitude Today!

When asked what 3 things he would like people to know about gratitude, top researcher, Robert Emmons, said: “First, the prac­tice of grat­i­tude can increase hap­pi­ness lev­els by around 25%. Sec­ond, this is not hard to achieve–a few hours writ­ing a grat­i­tude jour­nal over 3 weeks can cre­ate an effect that lasts 6 months if not more. Third, that cul­ti­vat­ing grat­i­tude brings other health effects, such as longer and bet­ter qual­ity sleep time”.[1]

First, 25% happier? Who doesn’t want that? Second, we can see lasting results in only a few weeks? And third, we’ll not only be happier–we’ll be healthier too? If this is true (and it is), then we would be crazy NOT to practice gratitude! Hopefully these reasons, as well as those I outlined in my recent post, “10 Benefits of  Practicing Gratitude,” are enough to inspire you to give it a try!

Before You Get Started: What You Need to Know

Before you implement a gratitude practice, there are a few things you should know that might help:
1) Remember, the goal is to actively practice gratitude, not just wait around to feel grateful (more on this in “10 Benefits of Practicing Gratitude”).

2) Studies show, the best way to make gratitude a habit is to spice it up with different types of gratitude practice. Choose two, three, or all of the exercises below to get you started. They’re all beneficial, so choose those that most resonate with you, and feel free to “mix it up”. The best gratitude practice for you is the one you will stick with!

3) It doesn’t matter exactly how often you practice gratitude; what matters is that you do it routinely. Every day, once a week, three times a week–whatever works for you, just stick with it and keep it consistent. You can even set a goal for how long your gratitude practice will continue. In 2008, I practiced gratitude for my “yearly theme” (my alternative to New Year’s Resolutions). For one full year, my focus was to simply be more grateful each and every day. It was one of my favorite personal goals of all time, and most of the practices I started during my “year of gratitude” I still practice today!

Now that you have the three “rules,” check out the list of ideas below. Then, pick one and get started. Don’t delay–start today!


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Collective-EvolutionCollective Evolution October 14, 2015 by Alexa Erickson. We all know the detriments of putting ourselves down. When we tell ourselves we’re not good enough too many times, we truly begin to believe it, and for many people, mornings aren’t the easiest. The feeling of getting out of bed to exercise, go to work, or take on any other responsibility we feel obligated to do is tough. But that’s because we make it tough. We tell ourselves Mondays are the worst. We tell ourselves it’s too early to exercise. Thoughts begin to circulate in our heads regarding all the things we have to do, all the things we should be doing, and all the things we actually want to do but don’t feel like we deserve or have time for. This negativity only brings on stress. We get into such a groove of doing this, of complaining about our Monday through Fridays, that we tend to live for moments, like the weekends or vacations, to get us through the rest of our days. But what we should be doing is living for every day. So how can you change your morning around? Mantras are words or phrases meant to be chanted either internally or out loud as a means of meditating. They originated about 3,000 years ago in India, at least to the Vedic tradition, in which they were used to influence and control the gods. Throughout history, they have continued to be used in various ways to promote transformation. In our modern day Western world, they are often seen as a means to shifting our perspectives in order to welcome a new sense of self. In the words of Buddha, “What we think, we become.” To help you find the beauty in each day, and at every moment, try changing the way you view yourself in this world by incorporating these 20 motivational mantras. 1. Today, I will choose happiness. 2. I am enough. 3. Today, I will positively impact someone’s day. 4. Today, accept what is instead of resenting what isn’t. 5. Just to be alive is a grand thing. Morning mantras to live by. 6. May I be Happy. May I be Healthy. May I be Creative. May I be at ease. 7. I am thankful for everything I have. 8. Today, I will breathe deeply and go slowly. 9. It is enough to do my best. 10. Breathe in joy and strength, breathe out wisdom and peace. Read More Here

Collective Evolution

October 14, 2015 by Alexa Erickson.

 

We all know the detriments of putting ourselves down. When we tell ourselves we’re not good enough too many times, we truly begin to believe it, and for many people, mornings aren’t the easiest. The feeling of getting out of bed to exercise, go to work, or take on any other responsibility we feel obligated to do is tough. But that’s because we make it tough. We tell ourselves Mondays are the worst. We tell ourselves it’s too early to exercise. Thoughts begin to circulate in our heads regarding all the things we have to do, all the things we should be doing, and all the things we actually want to do but don’t feel like we deserve or have time for. This negativity only brings on stress.

We get into such a groove of doing this, of complaining about our Monday through Fridays, that we tend to live for moments, like the weekends or vacations, to get us through the rest of our days. But what we should be doing is living for every day. So how can you change your morning around?

Mantras are words or phrases meant to be chanted either internally or out loud as a means of meditating. They originated about 3,000 years ago in India, at least to the Vedic tradition, in which they were used to influence and control the gods. Throughout history, they have continued to be used in various ways to promote transformation. In our modern day Western world, they are often seen as a means to shifting our perspectives in order to welcome a new sense of self. In the words of Buddha, “What we think, we become.”

To help you find the beauty in each day, and at every moment, try changing the way you view yourself in this world by incorporating these 20 motivational mantras. 

1. Today, I will choose happiness. 

2. I am enough. 

3. Today, I will positively impact someone’s day.

4. Today, accept what is instead of resenting what isn’t.

5. Just to be alive is a grand thing.

6. May I be Happy. May I be Healthy. May I be Creative. May I be at ease.

7.  I am thankful for everything I have.

8. Today, I will breathe deeply and go slowly.

9. It is enough to do my best.

10. Breathe in joy and strength, breathe out wisdom and peace.

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A Place Called Gratitude

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Published on Mar 1, 2014

For my extra-extra-not-ordinary Dick and Tish, masters of the high seas and captains of the heart-journey.
Heretic Productions present.
Les Visible's A Place Called Gratitude.
From Visible Origami 2005
http://www.visibleorigami.com/2005/12...

Gratitude changes you. It changes the cells in your body and makes you flexible and young. It neutralizes anger. Most people aren't aware that depression is the result of turning your anger inward; turning it upon yourself. Most people also don't realize that much of their anger comes from their sense of being denied something they insist upon having; whether that is an object, a world view, someone's attention or their right of way on the way to whatever it is that they want or wherever it is they wish to be. Gratitude makes all of that unnecessary.

5 Life-Changing Reasons to Have a Gratitude Jar

• healthy living

• Judi Gerber
• February 24, 2014
• 11:05 am

I have always preferred to think of myself as quick-witted. But, since I have spent the past couple of years taking a good look at myself, I have to be honest and admit, what I really am, is snarky. I love sarcasm. And those of us who do, do not often have the most optimistic outlook on life. I know I will never be a complete Little Ms. Sunshine, but I have been working on at least being a bit less dark.

So, when I saw that many of my friends had created “Gratitude Jars” at the start of the New Year, I joined in and created my own. What exactly is a gratitude jar? Basically it’s a jar (or basket or container) that you fill with notes, thoughts, and scribbles about something that you are thankful or grateful for. Some people add something on a daily basis, some do it randomly, and some add things when they are having an especially hard time.
You can be as elaborate or as simple as you want, going as far as decorating your own jar, to doing what I did and re-purposing a jar that had been gifted to me filled with seed packets. As for reviewing your gratitude s, this also is entirely up to you. Some people do it at the end of the year, some involve their whole family and read some at Thanksgiving, and others, like me, read them when they are having a really tough day.

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When approached by the Make-A-Wish Foundation , Jayci Glover, a terminally-ill teen couldn't think of anything she wanted . Instead she chose to give back to the local High School that had done so much to support her.

Girl with terminal cancer donates Make-A-Wish money to her school

A. Pawlowski TODAY contributor

She may not make it to the basketball and volleyball games of her beloved high school teams, but a teenager with a rare type of terminal cancer is making sure they will play in style.

Courtesy Heather Glover

Jayci Glover, right, and a friend share a happy moment. The terminally-ill teen loves mangoes so a local business created a mango smoothie named for her.

When approached by the Make-A-Wish Foundation recently, Jayci Glover, a 13-year-old who lives in Kanab, Utah, simply asked for a new scoreboard for the local high school, where the students and athletes have embraced the girl and kept her spirits up during a difficult year.
“She just decided that she didn’t really need anything, that she has everything she wants and wanted to give something back to all of her friends and the local community that’s done so much to support her,” her mother, Heather Glover, told TODAY Moms.
Her mother said the family wasn’t surprised at all that Jayci’s would think of somebody else when making her wish.
“We had suspected all along that she was going to choose something for her two little sisters or for her friends… She can never think of anything she wants – for Christmas or birthdays.”
Make-A-Wish is paying $7,500 towards the cost of the new scoreboard, which will cost $20,000, said Karen Kelly, who is Jayci’s great aunt and works at the school. The plans are to put Jayci’s name on the scoreboard so she is always there in spirit and cheering on the teams.
The girl, who was diagnosed with peripheral T-cell lymphoma, is at home on hospice care now after spending much of last year in and out of the hospital, Jayci’s mom said.
“There just aren’t any more things they can try. We’ve tried every proven lymphoma treatment that there is and her cancer continued to grow through every single one of them,” Glover said.

Courtesy Karen Kelly

The Make-A-Wish check was presented during a ceremony at the local high school on Feb. 12.

“We just reached a decision… to just come home and try to let her be in her home with her two little sisters for as long as we can. We don’t know how long that will be. We don’t think it will be too long.”
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Hero teen, 13, with terminal cancer GIVES AWAY her Make-A-Wish to her school to buy new $7,500 scoreboard rather than enjoy a dream trip

• Jayci Glover, 13, is fighting a rare form of terminal lymphoma which has caused her to gain over 160lbs in the past year

• When the brave student received a $7,500 gift from Make-A-Wish she decided to give it to her high school rather than spend it on herself

• The check was presented before a school basketball game earlier this month and the team wore 'Fight Like Jayci' T-shirts

• Jayci left hospital for the last time on February 12 and received a hero's welcome in her hometown of Kanab, Utah

By Daily Mail Reporter
PUBLISHED: 10:54 EST, 20 February 2014 | UPDATED: 17:23 EST, 20 February 2014
A Utah teenager with terminal cancer has made an incredibly selfless gesture after donating her $7,500 Make-A-Wish foundation gift to her high school.
Jayci Glover, 13, has been fighting a rare form of terminal lymphoma for over a year, which has caused the previously healthy young girl to gain over 160lbs.
When Make-A-Wish asked Jayci what she would like to do with the money, rather than ask for a trip to theme park, or a chance to meet a celebrity or sports star, she decided to gave her gift to Kanab High School to pay a new scoreboard for the gym.

Jayci Glover, 13, has been fighting a rare form of terminal lymphoma for over a year, which has caused the previously healthy young girl to gain over 160lbs

Make-A-Wish presented Jayci Glover's $7,500 check to Kanab High School before a basketball game on February 12

The foundation presented a $7,500 check to the school, in Jayci's name, before a basketball game on February 12, reports Yahoo News.
The boy's team also paid tribute to their benefactor with 'Fight Like Jayci' T-shirts and every player also gave her a rose and a hug or kiss before the game.

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Emily Doyle ~ Gratitude’s Vibration

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Wake Up World  January 9 2014

What are you most grateful for? Who are you most grateful for? What experiences do you cherish with all your heart?
The power of gratitude is in align with the power of love, and love is the highest vibration there is. To practice gratitude is to practice love.
When we find ourselves in a negative or positive experience the best action we can take is to take a moment and thank it. By thanking the moment, we let the universe know that we accept and take responsibility for what we have attracted into our human existence. When we have acceptance we are metaphorically saying that we are a co-creator in this life. And as a co-creator, it is up to you to manifest what you want into your life.
Do you want love? Do you want peace? Do you want true, deep relationships? What do you see when you look at your life? How deep are you looking?


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The Science of Happiness - An Experiment in Gratitude

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